Recently, I’ve felt a burden for the worth of women and what they face on a daily basis. I feel my writing has reflected that heart-felt seed of purpose as of late and that fact makes me happy—but what of the men? There are good guys out there who may not believe in their own self worth and may be in need of encouragement. Ideally, this is that.
Throughout our day, each of us of the male persuasion is bombarded with what it means to be a “man”. Bits of advice on how we are to dress, how we are to smell, even how we are to behave are all tossed upon us in unsolicited opinions from a world that treasures conquest and satisfaction over purity and salvation—but we are worth more. We are worth more than the stereotypes that attempt to restrict us because we choose the morally sound decisions and righteous suppression of our hottest desires. We are worth more than a leering, disrespectful glance at a young lady’s backside or an elongated stare at her exposed form. We are better than the braggadocios praise of sexual crusades that leave nothing but emptiness and aching in their wake. We are worth more than the mistreatment of the fairer sex and bruising words against their demeanor. We are worth more than the regrets that once filled our night, but rather fully deserving of the coming blessings our actions will produce. In these blessed days, we are worth more than we’re allowed to believe.
Our worth has been weakened by the disappointments of our rebel kind, fragile in fervor, cheap in respect. They have fallen to the likes of beggars and thieves, refusing to be responsible for what they have created or what they should hold responsible. But we, my brothers, are worthy of a turning tide. We are worth more than those who’ve come before us and disappointed the masses. We are better than the value a broken universe estimates. We hold a higher value than our past would dictate. We are worthy of the respect we deserve—a returned favor for the respect we have bestowed. We, the strong and able, mighty and fervent, are worth more than the future that would lie before us. We are worthy of all we crave and all we choose to love. We are eternally worthy of the kindred forever we crave. We, even in our lonely and broken pieces, are worth more.
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I cannot wait until God brings us together. I cannot wait for our first kiss. And I absolutely cannot wait until I am yours forever, but until then I guess I can wait if you promise to let me win one round of Halo.
I’ve done a lot of stupid things intending to make someone love me. I thought that if I did these little things they’d suddenly realize that I was, in fact, worth their love and that magically we’d live happily ever after. I can not tell you how beautiful it is to know that you’re out there, ready to love me passionately just because I’m me, not because of what I can give you. I can’t wait to meet you and never have to earn your love. I treasure the idea of walking with you, hand in hand, content in every way knowing that you’re my biggest fan. I need that kind of love right now and just knowing that you’re going to be that love is enough to tide me over for now. I love you a million times over, please hurry up and get here.
I can’t wait to share life you; to lay in a hammock and just be with you. I promise that I will always love you and always be there for you through the good and the bad. I will support you in all you do. I promise that I will be the best that I can be for you, and you alone!
I sleep on the left side of my bed, leaving the other side covered by pillows. I’m saving that side for you, my Love. Late at night when I’m scared or worried, I snuggle up against that pile of pillows and imagine you’re there holding me and whispering in my ear. I cannot wait for the day that dream becomes a reality. Please promise you will hold me as I fall asleep, darling.
You were worth the wait. Everyday I fall more in love with the God that created us and I can’t wait to see us grow old together, falling in love each other and our first love – Christ. Thanks for the memories.
Words cannot express how much I’m looking forward to singing with the other half of a love duet. I have all these songs that are only half-sung…they’re just waiting for you to step in and complete them.
I have struggled all my life, trying to get to where I need to be. Everywhere I turn, when I’m starting to feel better, there is another obstacle waiting to bring me back down to reality again. I want you to know I’m ready for you to come and sweep me off my feet, to hold me in your arms, comfort me, and pray with me every night to our Mother Mary, just like Don Bosco told us. I need you in my life. I don’t know how much I can hold on without you.
I have had a dream about you, but I can’t remember your face. I longto see that face in the same setting as my dream again almost as much as I long to see God’s face. I am praying for ya. I have been asking God who you are for a couple of years now. He hasn’t told me yet, but I know He will when the right time comes. I pray that you stay happy and enjoy your life. I want to know you really soon!
Have you ever had one of those relationships that was just…difficult? One of those pacts where, no matter what you did or how hard you tried, a fight was always started and all hell broke loose for a good while? We probably all have (If not, you’re a blessed little unicorn and the rest of us hate you). But if you think about it, a relationship between two people—one that works anyway—is a balancing act for the ages. Not only do you have to meet this person when you’re both available (don’t be cheating, you harlots!), but you both have to find the other somewhat attractive AND find some similarities of taste in things like music, movies, food, and which Jonas brother you like the best (Team Nick, y’all). So to create a relationship from nothing but the chance meeting of two random souls is something that cannot and should not be discounted. Finding that person who seems to fit you so perfectly is a wonderful thing—a thing that can set your spirit free while taking the breath right from your chest.
But do you know which realization is one of the worst? We finally find this lovely partner in crime who fits us just right only to realize—oh, no!—they don’t share our beliefs. Ain’t that just a kick in the head (Shout out to Dean Martin)? They are absolutely PERFECT for us and we have so much fun together, but either they’re of a different religious sect, or they just aren’t a Christian at all. And, right from the start, we’re behind the danged 8 ball. So what do we do? If you’re anything like me, you’ve tried the ol’ “Flirt to Convert” campaign where you go ahead and date them while hoping against hope that you can convert them to your ways of belief and faith. In my experience, it rarely works, and feelings end up getting hurt, which just leads to more fights, which, in turn, leads to more things being thrown, which just leads to me having a knot on my head.
In all honesty, relationships—those righteously wonderful ones that awaken the soul, those that last—are hard work all by themselves. So if we choose to add the stress of differing opinions on things such as God, salvation and eternity, things that actually matter, then that has the increased chance of causing fractures in our union. I am in no way saying two people with different beliefs can’t last. They can. I’ve seen it, and, though it can be filled with tension at times, it’s a beautiful thing. My point is this: dating is the process of finding a mate, yes? So if we’re searching for a partner to spend the rest of our lives with and we already have all of these other things we have to line up just so, what sense does it make to add the additional stress of religious discord? Not very much. It doesn’t matter if you’re a Christian or an Agnostic or even an Atheist, when you’re constantly arguing and battling someone over what you believe versus what they believe, it will wear on both of you alike, and that, in turn, weakens the relationship.
This can very easily be read as a “Stick to your own kind!” type of message but if you’ve read anything I’ve written, you know that isn’t my way. The acceptance and love of others is what makes this world turn. Yes, you can date outside of your own belief, and yes, it can last forever… but it won’t be easy. If you’re currently in a relationship of differing beliefs or are considering entering in to such a union, just pray about it. God will never steer you wrong and He may even have you in that person’s life to deliver salvation. Honestly, I wouldn’t put it past Him. And though He reveals truth to us for a specific purpose, making our strained relationship last beyond its expiration date may not be it. It’s up to us to pursue the opposite sex with responsibility and maturity. Choosing a like-minded someone in the first place is a step in that right direction.
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I dream of slow dancing with you, swaying slowly in our kitchen at 2 am, in the still quiet of Christmas Eve snowfall, in warm summer thunderstorms, and while wearing socks on the hardwood floor of our bedroom.
I can’t wait until I meet you. You’ll be exactly what I’ve been missing in my life. We’ll talk about Adventure Times, cry at Disney movies, eat Nutella together, watch lesbian movies while cuddling on the couch, and we’ll hug all the cats. Especially the tiny ones. You’ll be there to comfort me when I’m having a bad day and you’ll be there when I’m the one who needs a hug. And likewise, I will do the same for you.
I’m still somewhat young, I know that… but I think I might have found you. Every time your name is mentioned, I smile like an idiot and feel warm and fuzzy all over. I want you to hold me in your arms and never let go. I love you.
"Yes" is the the answer to anything and everything you ask to do with me. No matter how much it embarrasses me or makes me look silly. Even if its something I didn’t really wanna do. In all reality, as long as I’m doing it with you, I want to and we will.
I know spending the next four years apart will be hard, but we’ll make it. We’ll both work really hard at this and always find time for each other even though we’re going to be so busy with classes. I love you so much, and I can’t wait for the day when I can call myself your wife.
I don’t know who you are, but I know who I want you to be. And if it is really you, then I forgive you for all the hurt and confusion you have put me through…because I know one day you’re going to make it up to me.
As some of you may know, I am divorced. I was married extremely young and foolish, and though the pain and regret of a failed marriage is something you learn to adapt to, I can look back and see that I was blessed to be given many things despite the demise of my union. Naturally, my daughter is the most important of these gifts, but also important are the lessons learned that I hold close to my heart now. Within these aching lessons is the appreciation of “forever” and the attained reverence of just how long for ever is. And though I learned this lesson too late to save a marriage that should have never been attempted in the first place, its truth now rests deep in my soul.
If you’d like, I can spit statistics at you on how marriage is a dying institution and no one seems to take it seriously anymore—but we both know it wouldn’t do a bit of good. It isn’t the fault of our culture or the fault of our generation. It isn’t the fault of our churches, and it isn’t the fault of our parents. The fact that marriages don’t seem to last like they used to is tangible and something to be revered, because it is truth. The truth is that these days, we are more likely to be separated and divorced than we are to stay together. But why is that? What root cause is bleeding our marriages to the point of extinction? And how can we stop it?
Mostly, I write this to those who are in serious relationships and are considering marriage or one day want to be married. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not here to rail against marriage and all that it stands for. Marriage is a beautifully holy thing that should be respected and entered in to with many hours of prayer and consideration. So yes, I support and honor the sanctity of marriage, but only if both parties understand that they are giving themselves to one another for the rest of eternity. Often times, the gravity of this situation is not so easily grasped by those involved. Today, an attitude of“let’s take it for a spin and if it doesn’t work out, we can go our separate ways” seems to have become the norm. No, sweet souls…no. I made that mistake and I’ve paid the cost of that whimsical thinking. It doesn’t end well for anyone involved. Understanding that “’til death do we part” is exactly what it says, and committing to that idea, is a forthright act that should be revered and entered in to with the gravity of all life-changing decisions—because it is just that. We are committing to sharing every intimate detail and experience of our life with this other person. That decision cannot be a flippant one. The weighted responsibility of such a choice is what should keep us grounded in respectful admiration.
Divorce is a painful thing. My ex-wife and I can both tell you that and, although she has found her prince charming and now lives a happily married life, those scars of failure and pain are not always so easily hidden. They take time, and they take explanations of whom, how and why. Those aren’t easy conversations to have, nor are they easily bypassed and tossed away. They take patience and understanding, for they are brutally honest and heavily weighed in truth.
So no, I’m not against marriage, but I do hate divorce. If you’re considering taking that lovely plunge someday, please take the time to pray about it and consider what a life-altering decision it is. It takes a brave soul to admit when they’re wrong or when they’ve made a mistake, but it takes a truly righteous maturity to know and understand that forever is indeed, forever.
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Can we please be that cute older couple at the beach who wake up early and take long walks at the oceans shore, just as the sun is rising, hand in hand? I look forward to growing old with you… Even though we will ALWAYS be young at heart ;)
I had a dream the other night that you finally found me. I couldn’t see your face so I still don’t know what you look like. The next day, all day, a whispered voice kept telling me “It’s going to happen soon…soon… soon.” I ‘m afraid to let myself believe that maybe, just maybe, that thought was from the Lord.
Believe it or not, I’m asked for dating advice almost on a daily basis. And even more shocking, most of these calls for advice come from young ladies (I know…I’m as shocked as you are). With this in mind, and because my Guide to Treating Women Right for Today’s Modern Male was so well received, I thought I’d type out a guide for today’s modern woman—just a simple little set of guidelines to keep in mind when on the prowl. Now listen closely…
Get to Know Him As basic of a suggestion as this is, it seems to have been lost somewhere in the annals of time. Often times, a young lady will traipse off on an adventure with a young fella simply because he asked nicely. No, no, no…no. That’s what Lifetime movies are made of. There is absolutely nothing wrong with thoroughly getting to know a guy before spending quality time with him. This entire dating process needs to be done at pace you’re comfortable with—not a pace he dictates. Guys are notoriously fast movers because we like to get things done. We’re doers. Divide and conquer. All that. It’s our nature. So it’s up to you to be the voice of reason. And I can hear you now, being all, “But, Cory! He’s REALLY cute and has AMAZING dimples!” and“What if he doesn’t ask again?! COPELAND, I WILL END YOU IF YOU SCREW THIS UP FOR ME!” but I need you to trust me. If a guy is interested in you, in the you that’s on the inside, and not just the “assets” God gave you, then he’ll put in the effort to do things the right way. If not, he’s not worth your time and attention. Brutal, but true, deary.
Make the Rules This will be a recurring theme throughout this piece but only because it’s that important. It’s imperative you let the suitor know where you stand on certain issues. No, I’m not talking about Team Edward or Team Jacob (Team Nobody Wins!) or Democrat or Republican (Again, nobody wins); I’m talking about your morals and your standards. Set him straight from the beginning so that he knows you won’t be taking things past a certain point no matter how long you date and/or how AMAZING those dimples of his are. You’re a lady and you conduct yourself as such. You are to be respected and he is to treat you as such. These rules need to be stated and understood from the onset to avoid any mishaps or feelings being hurt. And hopefully, you’re dating the kind of guy who wouldn’t dream of trying anything or disrespecting you, regardless of situation or understood morals.
Be Appreciative This is it! The big night is here! Plans have been made and you’re all dolled up. It’s time to date that boy! You’re excited and only a little nervous, but you’ve got this (just don’t forget deodorant). If he’s smart, he’s going to take you on an actual date and not just waste time with such a lovely young lady by going to “get coffee”. You’re going to a decently nice restaurant with menus, real silverware, cloth napkins…the works. So here’s the thing to remember: say thank you. A guy never feels manlier, never feels more accomplished than when he is thanked by the girl he likes. Be appreciative of where he’s taking you and how much effort he’s put in to the evening. It will seriously make his night if he knows he has done a good job of impressing you. Because, honestly, he’s just as nervous as you are and he’s completely terrified he’s going to screw something up. So ease his mind and say thank you. It’ll make you look even better (like that’s even possible, right?!). At the end of the first evening, he shouldn’t be trying to kiss you and you shouldn’t be wanting him to. Well okay, wanting him to kiss you is acceptable but don’t let him kiss you on the first date. Just don’t. It sets a precedent that is hard to overcome. You’re worth more effort than a single date and he should know this. Make him wait. Again, if he’s interested in you the right ways, he’ll be perfectly okay with waiting a few dates to plant a wet one on ya. If not, tell him to kick rocks.
“OMG, IT’S BEEN 24 HOURS AND I HAVEN’T HEARD FROM HIM! DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG?! I’M GOING TO DIE ALONE! WHERE’S MY CAT?! I NEED A HUG!” First, breathe. You haven’t done anything wrong (more than likely?). Guys are just as much inside their heads as you are so if he hasn’t contacted you, then right now he’s thinking, “Should I call/text her? Yes, I should. Should I? No, better wait. Should I wait? No, I’m calling her. Should I…” Why? Because he doesn’t want to bug you. It’s true. He wants you to know he likes you but he’s also over-thinking whether you actually DO like him or not…so he waits. Or he’s just a complete jerkhead, poop face who doesn’t deserve your time so…you know…deuces, pal. When he does contact you and you’ve calmed your butterflies down to an acceptable level of excitement, let him know that you had a fantastic time and yes, you would like go out again sometime. But let him set the date. Again, he’s the male and he should have to do the work. It may be old fashioned of me but it makes sense. You’re supposed to be wooed and pursued. So let him woo and pursue. Plus, it’ll make the young squire feel all in charge and what not when we both know better *WINK!*
Don’t You Dare Play Games with That Boy It’s a simple yet vital rule, okay? DO NOT PLAY GAMES! They’re frustrating and they lead absolutely nowhere. You’ll only end up discouraging him and driving him away or emasculating him and who wants a guy without any gumption? From the beginning, and as your relationship progresses, be open and honest with him. You don’t have to spill your heart and all of your deepest darkest secrets on the first date, but be transparent. Don’t make him guess how you’re feeling or what kind of mood you’re in. We hate that. Being forthright and informative will keep lines of communication open between you and your boy and will help you guys avoid those pitiful little fights we’ve all been in. And that’s the name of the game, sweetheart.
You Are to Be Respected No matter how far the relationship progresses, one thing must remain a constant—you are to be respected at all times. I cannot tell you how important this is. You are a woman and you are God’s gift to man to cure his lonely heart. You are not to be owned or controlled. Men are not allowed to talk down to you or demean you in anyway. He is not to put his hands on you in ways that make you uncomfortable. He is to respect you and the morals you hold dear. I need for you to understand this. Sadly, most men will do whatever you let them. The solution is simple: do not let them. You don’t need to say ‘yes’ to be liked or to be accepted. You are your own woman and you should be respected and treated as such. If the boy you’re seeing turns out to be an opportunist, then you need to send him packing. If he can’t respect the limits that you have placed on your self and the relationship, then you need to say goodbye and never give him the time of day again. You are worth more than a downtrodden word or a vicious grab of the arm. You are worth more than anything he may try to force upon you. Demand the respect you deserve and I promise you that it will be afforded to you.
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I am waiting for you and you alone. You know this because you will be my first and only. I will love you no matter what happens, through thick and thin. I know you are out there, but please dont leave me alone for too long.
Hey… So if I ever end up meeting you, I want you to know it’s been a struggle to get to you. I don’t exactly believe in love, or myself for that matter… But I believe in God, and if He wants us to meet, we will meet. So, I just wanted to say that you will be my first kiss if I ever meet you. Congrats in advance for converting me into a romantic, by the way : ) I’m waiting for you. Always and forever my darling.
I know what God wants me to do with my life, but I’m following my dreams and it seems like God is allowing me to prosper more and more each day. Yet, I feel alone in this world. I’m at a point in my life where I feel as if nothing is keeping me here other then this dream I have. So I feel as though I am destined to die a young man. I’m not even 21 yet and I just know my fate. All I ask is to give me something worth living for, something worth staying alive for. All I ask of you is to be there and I will give you my whole heart, never leaving you alone, never hurt your heart, and always be true to you. And most of all, out of all those things, I’ll love you and listen to what you have to say and value your opinion with all my heart. If you ever see this, God bless you and I’d love to meet you one day.
I met you, and I wanted you. Immediately. But God had other plans. 18 months later He has brought us together. We listened to “The Keeper of the Stars” and I know that someone else had a hand in this! I will be more than happy to do this 5 hour distance relationship until I get to spend everyday with you as my husband!