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Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:24:00 -0500

From the Archives: Why Does Being Single Feel Like This?

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To My Future Husband:

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 17:58:15 -0500

Avett said it best, “always remember there was nothing worth sharing like the love that let us share our name.”

Til one day, I love you.

Your future wife.

To My Future Husband:

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 17:58:11 -0500

You are nothing I knew I wanted but everything I needed.

To My Future Husband:

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 17:58:06 -0500

You won me over when you slipped a stack of hall passes into my purse from your middle school classroom so I could fill them out nonsensically for my college students.

To My Future Husband:

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 17:58:00 -0500

I’m glad we are such close friends as we are now. I can’t wait to go camping with you - waking up by your side and cooking up a delicious breakfast as the sun rises over the dewy hills. I can’t wait to go the outdoor cinemas, only to spend the entirety of the movie creating our own dialogue for the characters. I long to work overseas with you, sharing the love of Christ through word and deed. I’m eager to have those home days where we do nothing but simply read and share with each other our favourite quotes and parts of our most-loved books. I can’t wait to trek through the hills and follow trails with unknown destinations. I’m excited for the day that I can say ‘yes’. I’m even more excited to spend the rest of my life with you.

Love, your future wife.

To My Future Husband:

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 17:57:47 -0500

I have been lingering on the tmfs blog page for quite some time now. Constantly looking at the new posts every day and dreaming wishfully about our future as a married couple. I haven’t met you yet, at least I don’t think I have, but part of me is always wishing that just maybe I’ll meet you someday soon. Whether it’s at the coffeeshop I spend my days working at, the university I attend most weekdays or possibly church.

You are always in my prayers. That my ‘someday man’ is continuously growing each day spiritually and emotionally and that I can do the same - grow closer with God and be the ultimate ‘Proverbs 31 Woman’, so that when we meet, we can the best we can be and give all that we are for each other. Part of me hopes that you’ll see this post, or maybe that’s just wishful thinking! But there is incredible comfort I have in knowing that the Lord has our lives planned and will work and mould us to be servants for Him.

See you soon ‘someday man’!

To My Future Husband:

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:21:04 -0500

Each day I will tell you one thing I love about you.
Each day I will compliment you.
I will sing to you every chance I get.
I won’t go a day without making you smile.
Never will I speak harshly about you or confide in another.
I will pray for you before myself.
I will make sure you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are loved.
I’m your number one fan and always will be!
I will watch as God does amazing things in your life.

Through the trials and tribulations of life…
No matter what it may bring our way…I will always be by your side.

Pinky swear. <3

To My Future Husband:

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:20:55 -0500

How are you? Tell me about your day. Tell me a story. Tell me about that one time when you were six or seven or even fifteen that makes you grin uncontrollably. Tell me what you were thinking when you decided you wanted to know me. Tell me everything. Or tell me nothing of importance. Just tell me something.

Mary, Jesus and I have been talking lately. About life, about love, about all sorts of ridiculous things. Life is starting to race away, and I feel compelled to chase after it. There are so many things I want to do, to see, to experience – and I hope that one day we can do, see and experience those things together.

Non lo so come dire lo che sto pensando. But for now, I think I can be content with trying to express an innocent intimacy in writing you letters; in praying for you and yours. It’s time I start healing and start living. And it’s time that you do the same. Let’s be fearless – together, now, in this moment, and in our individual lives. Let’s do it. It’ll be an adventure.

I’ve been finishing these letters with the phrase ti voglio bene lately. That’s because I’m taking an Italian class. There are a lot of phrases that I absolutely love, but this in particular strikes me as the most honest simply because we don’t have the equivalent in English. Ti voglio bene means “I want what is good for you.” This, in my opinion, is the very embodiment of St. Thomas Aquinas’ definition of Love… which is willing the good of another.

So ti voglio bene, darling.

To My Future Husband:

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:20:47 -0500

I would wait a thousand years and a day for you. It gets really hard to be alone sometimes, but you will be so worth it.

To My Future Husband:

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:20:39 -0500

I’ve found someone who I think might be you. I really love him. But it’s all up to what God has planned for us. I pray for you. I pray you have patience and that you stay strong. I pray that you will be able to forgive me. I can’t wait to find out who you are. I pray that you save yourself for me as I am for you. I promise to be the best wife I know how to be for you. Don’t give up hope in me!

To My Future Husband:

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:20:30 -0500

I have to write this to you because I am afraid that if we ever met, I could never tell you. I think you are wonderful and real and have the sweetest smile. I want you and I need you. And I have made sure I never needed anyone because it hurt too much…But I have to tell you I am scared to death I am not worthy of you. I am afraid that I will screw up this magical power and connection we have. And even though I have waited all my life, I am scared that I will miss out on you.

I don’t believe in heart pounding romance because I have never felt it before. Until you. I don’t really know what to do with that feeling. I have been too disappointed to believe in the lyrics of love songs and love scenes in movies. And I have never been held that way. Too sarcastic, too realistic and cynical. But I am hoping you will change my mind. Sometimes I think if we were holding hands and you casually rubbed my hand with your thumb, I would burst. If we were talking and you just gave me that Look. Not the ‘let’s go have sex’ look , but like you were really looking at me. Maybe then I could let go of all my insecurities and just be there in the moment and get lost in you. I have always wanted someone to understand me. To know me. And tell me I am not that pain in the ass everyone thinks I am.

Some girls want to be impressed and spoiled. I am not one of those girls. I want you to be who you are and feel comfortable with me. I’ll watch your science fiction documentaries , the DIY channel and NCIS shows. (Just not weekend long marathon NCIS). Tell me about yourself even if you think you are boring because I want to know all of you. I want to be the one you come to when something is bugging you and be your biggest support. Hey, I love football and beer too. Go ahead, show me your nerdy side. I think it’s sexy anyway. Figuring out why my car squeaks when I make a right hand turn will only be another reason I can kiss you. You will be my Hero if you use your extreme height (anyone is taller than me) to get that spider in the corner of the ceiling. I can barely make can soup but I will try my best to make you food that won’t make you run for the bathroom. The tomboy in me will go away if you REALLY want me to wear a dress. But only for you.

I’ll do all of this for you. Because I love you and I need you.

All you have to do is love me with all your heart and kiss me back.

To My Future Husband:

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:30:54 -0500

I’m thinking water balloon fights in the backyard. Want to join me for some summer fun?

To My Future Husband:

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:29:35 -0500

I don’t need you to save me. I’ve gotten pretty good at saving myself. But some days I am tired and weary and just plain empty, and if you could hold me close on those days and tell me you love me, and you wish you could fight my battles for me, that will be enough. Just knowing you’re there beside me will always be enough.

To My Future Husband:

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:29:29 -0500

Please don’t be deterred if I am initially distant or cold with you. I may say hurtful things I don’t mean to say or act as though you’re not there. Forgive me - I know it’s not exactly endearing, but I am trying to change. I act that way to protect my heart because, “I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature. My attachments are always excessively strong.” Please, be patient and consistent in your pursuit of me; until I know it’s really truly you, I will always be hesitant.

There is so much I would love to give you if you are willing to navigate past my exterior.

To My Future Husband:

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:29:25 -0500

I’m not sure if I’ve met you yet…I’d like to say that I met you back in September when school started, but if we rewind back to eighth grade I would have sworn that I met you at church. Truth is, I don’t really know who you are yet but I want you to know that I’m waiting for you. I’m not the most patient person in the world and I like to know what “the plan” is so this is a pretty huge thing for me. If we’ve already met, then you probably already know this about me. I know that God is working in both of our lives right now to prepare us for the right moment when we’ll meet and embark on this journey called Love. I’m impatient, but I also don’t mind waiting for my “something better” to come along. I speak my mind, but I’m also quiet. I am strong, but I am also weak. I am artsy, but I’m also lazy. I have the tendency to try to plan my life according to a calendar, and I have a feeling you’re going to come in and ruin ALL of that…oddly I’m okay with that. I already love you and I can’t wait to meet you and spend the rest of my life with you.

To My Future Husband:

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:29:20 -0500

I’m letting you go. You don’t exist and never have. And it took me 20 years to realize it, and accept it, but better late than never, right? I’m going to find myself an intelligent, funny, and beautiful wife instead.

To My Future Husband:

Mon, 17 Jun 2013 14:29:12 -0500

I just cannot wait to serve others with you.

Your Future Wife

From the Editors!

Sat, 15 Jun 2013 17:12:30 -0500

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To My Future Wife (Part 2)

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 22:51:41 -0500

corycopeland:

To My Future Wife (Part 2) | NEW POST
Dear Future Wife,

Now that I have an inkling of who you are, I feel I can be a bit more specific and direct than I was the first time I wrote you. It’s not to say this entry discredits the last; rather, I wish to add more of the same sentiments so that…
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To My Future Wife:

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 14:54:22 -0500

I can’t promise you much, and I don’t have a lot to offer you. But I can promise to love you and keep you happy, and I can offer my open hands and willing heart.